Burn It to the Ground

You know, when I first found out about ‘her,’ I was so humiliated. I was embarrassed. Ashamed. I didn’t want anyone to know. But why should I be ashamed and embarrassed and humiliated? I’m not the one that did anything wrong. All I did was be patient and loyal for years while I was being mugged off. How mugged off? Majorly mugged off. Well, no more. Buckle up.


A little over a year ago, I was here in New York, trying to rebuild my life and adjust to the fact that my marriage was well and truly over, all those years wasted, with nothing to show for them. After all, he had a baby with another woman; that’s a hard one to come back from.

But the thing is, he was still lying. He was telling me that it was all an accident; he wasn’t with her; he had no contact with her or the baby, BLAH BLAH BLAH LIES. And then a cousin of mine made a shocking discovery…

A cousin in Ireland was getting married. He and his wife were looking for a chauffeur and came across one’s Facebook page. And while they were scrolling through photos of happy newlyweds posing outside of a Rolls or in the backseat of a limo, one couple stood out. Because there he was, my husband, with his bride, who was not me.

My husband is a bigamist.

That sweet and funny Frenchman you all grew to love back when I was Sara in Le Petit Village, married another woman while still married to me.

He got married in 2019 and carried on as if nothing had changed.

Less than a month after his “wedding,” we took a family vacation with my mother, godmother, best friend, and her kids and frolicked on the Jersey Shore. We even signed another lease and began marriage counseling, all the while, he had a soon-to-be pregnant bride in another country.

So for all those years, while I was waiting for my new life back in the U.S. to begin finally, he was building a life with another woman. They met, dated, moved in together, got engaged, got married, and a little over a year later, had a baby.

And there it is. I won’t be ashamed, embarrassed, or humiliated anymore. He will be.

16 responses to “Burn It to the Ground”

  1. Whoa, whoa, whoa. What!? What a piece of work (I haven no words really, other than profane ones)! I don’t know you personally, Sara — I came across and began casually following your blog years ago when I was feeling nostalgic about my time as an expat in France. — but no one deserves to be treated like you have been by this complete sociopath. I am so, so sorry that you have gone through all of this. He deserves the absolute wrath of karma that hopefully comes his way.

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    Oh my god!! It amazes me how people like this get away with it. I can remember your amazing feats trying to get him into the USA with you and the obstacles you had to overcome. I just hope that Karma kicks in at some point and that you find the happiness, tranquility and peace that you so richly deserve. Love & hugs from Ro ~ n.w.italy.

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    1. Love and hugs right back to you!

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  3. Hey it’s Megan. I don’t know if you remember me. I had a blog, did Irish dance, trained a service dog… does that ring a bell?

    Anyhoo, I was on IG and saw a post. I went to here from your age and ONG!!! What a down right absolute piece of shit! Sorry if that’s too crass, but, that level of betrayal is above and beyond. I know karma catches up with shitheads, and he’ll get his someday.

    I can’t imagine. Good for you for moving ahead. I know you wil make your life into whatever you want. You’re amazing like that. Meanwhile, sending hugs and love your way! Love to Fifty too! Hang in there hun.

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    1. Hi Megan! Nice to “see” you here. Thank you for the support xoxo

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  4. Oh, Sara. It’s almost beyond belief. I can’t tell you how sorry I am. You gave him everything. I would hug you if I could. Not an iota of this is your fault, as you know, so I am happy to see that you are not embarrassed or ashamed anymore. Sometimes we have no way of knowing that someone we think we know is not at all the person we’d believed them to be. Often it’s the most loving, kind, giving women who fall for this charade. I hope the next installment sees you pressing charges against that vile creature. Bon courage.

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    1. Taking all the courage I can get, thank you! xx

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  5. I left you a response on Facebook after you posted this and they removed it and gave me a warning!! 🙄🙄 Anyways what I basically said was I’d strangle him. Slowly. Report him to the Irish police if that’s were he is. You absolutely deserve better and karma will get him. Does his “bride” know about you or that her marriage is invalid? I honestly can’t believe it. Onwards and upwards girl!

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    1. Onwards and upwards indeed! xx

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  6. You are right, his craziness is no reflection of who you are. From the early days in France, I’ve been following you. You are an amazing, strong woman who knows how to enjoy the beauties of life! Lucky are the people who cross you path….

    It also baffles me as I would assume in Ireland that he would have had to sign some document attesting that he isn’t married elsewhere.

    Best wishes to you and all the beauty that comes in your life.

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  7. Had to sit down after reading this one. Holy moly.
    I will pass you a jerry can filled with my finest fuel.

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  8. I read your blog post to my husband several days ago. We were so shocked at his behaviour. I felt I needed time to think of a response. Still thinking….. only thing so far is you are so much better without him. So much smarter and kinder and a better person. He is and will always be the lowest of the lowlives out there. I wonder what he will do to his new wife and child. I think you had a xxxxx escape!
    Take care of yourself as always. Cheers. Shelagh

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  9. What the actual fuck in all the name of fucking fuckery??!!
    Genuinely godsmacked. Before you even said it I was thinking ‘this is the guy from Petit Village, he seemed lovely!’. I can’t get my head around this total double life and its not my life so I don’t know how you’re doing it.
    Total credit to you for being so honest and refusing to feel embarrassed, ashamed or humilated anymore. Continue to hold your head up high – you’re bloody incredible. xx

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  10. He didn’t what?! I’m genuinely speechless! Cheating is one thing (and bad enough) but this is in a whole nother level. In so sorry. You definitely have no reason to feel ashamed. I hope karma catches up with him!

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